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How do we begin to heal the emotional wounds that stem from childhood experiences and past relationships? It’s a question I ask often in my work with couples and individuals—and the answer is rarely straightforward. These wounds are not just about what happened to us; they’re about how those moments shaped the way we give and receive love today. When two people come together in a relationship, they aren’t just...

Let’s be honest—sometimes, life stress just sucks the energy right out of you. Between demanding jobs, endless to-do lists, kids who need constant attention, and the stress of just existing in today’s fast-paced world, intimacy often takes a backseat. By the time you finally get a moment to breathe, curling up in bed with your partner might sound nice in theory, but in reality? You’d rather scroll on your phone...

Life stress can quietly sneak into your relationship and hijack the connection you once shared. This happens between deadlines, dishes, demanding schedules, and daily mental overload. Let’s be real—modern life doesn’t exactly roll out the red carpet for romance. What once felt playful, passionate, and effortless now feels like... one more thing on the to-do list. Sound familiar? You’re not alone. Chronic life stress is one of the biggest, most...

In a recent New York Times article about Gen X women, "Sexuality and the Gen X Woman", the complexities of intimacy for women in their 40s and 50s take center stage. The piece highlights how many of us are stepping into a new era of self-discovery, free from the constraints of youth, embracing our evolving desires with newfound confidence. As a Gen X woman myself—and as someone who has walked...

                        In a recent New York Times article, "Sexuality and the Gen X Women", the veil is lifted on a truth many of us have known quietly, intimately, for years: Midlife isn’t the end of our sexual story—it’s the beginning of a bold new chapter. For Gen X women, our 40s and 50s are not about fading desires or...

Vulnerability. The very word can strike fear in the hearts of many. To be vulnerable is to be exposed, to risk rejection, to strip away the armor we so carefully construct. And yet, it is also the key to the deepest, most profound intimacy and connections we can experience. At its core, vulnerability is the gateway to true intimacy—the kind of connection that allows us to be fully seen and...

Vulnerability. Just like the word "intimacy", saying the word "vulnerability" can make your chest tighten. To be vulnerable means to show the parts of yourself you usually keep hidden—the tender pieces, the unpolished truths, the feelings you’re afraid might be “too much” for someone else to handle. And yet, it is in this kind of intimacy and vulnerability that real love begins. In my work, I often talk about a...

Conflicts are a normal part of any relationship. But when conflict goes unresolved, it doesn’t just disappear—it lingers. Like dust settling into the corners of a cluttered room, unspoken frustrations and unresolved issues accumulate, creating emotional distance, resentment, and disconnection. The question is: Are you cleaning up as you go, or are you letting the emotional mess pile up? Why Do We Avoid Conflicts? Let’s be honest—conflict is uncomfortable. Nobody...

Let’s get straight to it: communication is the backbone of every relationship. But here’s the kicker—it’s not just about talking. You can talk about your day, your schedule, or the latest TV series you’re binge-watching and still feel completely disconnected from your partner. Real communication is about being heard, understood, and valued. And when it starts to break down, intimacy doesn’t stand a chance. Why Does Communication Break Down? For...

Hi and Happy New Year! The theme for 2025 is about how to create a lifetime of passionate intimacy. But before we get there, we need to understand all the reasons that can hold you back from the intimate relationship you desire. So let's get started! Let’s be real—no one walks down the aisle thinking, "I can’t wait for us to become glorified roommates one day!" But somewhere along the way,...