Tired of feeling like roommates instead of lovers?
Attend a Luxury couples intimacy retreat designed to reignite passion, deepen connection, and bring the spark back into your relationship, led by nationally recognized intimacy coach Xanet Pailet
As Seen In & Trusted By Couples Around The World
For over 15 years, nationally recognized sex and intimacy coach Xanet Pailet has helped hundreds of couples around the world heal emotional disconnection, reignite desire, and rediscover intimacy through immersive, trauma-informed retreats.
You Can't Talk Your Way Into Better Sex, You Have to Feel Your Way Into It
That’s why my Couples Retreats are so effective and have a 90% success rate.
You don’t just talk, you experience.
You’ll learn how to:
1. Reconnect through touch, presence, and playful intimacy.
2. Move past shame, shutdown, and performance pressure
3. Discover the erotic language that actually turns you both on
4. Create a felt sense of safety, pleasure, and desire
Is this for you?
You’ve achieved so much in life—but when it comes to love, connection, and intimacy, something still feels missing. If you’re longing for more… you’re not alone.
You might resonate if:
- You feel more like roommates than lovers
- You’re emotionally disconnected, even if you’re still functioning as a couple
- Physical intimacy feels awkward, absent, or like something’s just… off
- You’ve been through therapy but still feel stuck or unseen
- You miss the passion and playfulness you once had—or never truly explored
- One or both of you struggles with desire, attraction, or vulnerability
- You crave a safe space to heal old wounds or reignite your erotic spark
- You’re ready to feel deeply alive, sexually expressed, and truly connected again
Whether you’re coming as a couple or as a woman on your own, these retreats create sacred space for real transformation.
Which Experience Is Right for You?
A luxury retreat is just the beginning. Whether you’re looking for private reconnection, coaching or a tropical group immersion, you’ll find the space to rekindle intimacy and rediscover your partner.
Private Intimacy Retreats
Location: Asheville, NC (Florida in winter)
Who it’s for: Couples craving deep 1-on-1 guidance in a safe, private container
Packages start at $2800 per person
Vacation Retreats
Location: International
Who it’s for: Couples in a stable relationship ready to turn up the heat—together.
Packages start at $3000 per person
Coaching for Women & Couples
Who it’s for: Women and couples ready to deepen intimacy, confidence, and pleasure through personalized coaching.
Not Sure Where to Begin?
START WITH A FREE CALL
This is the heart of our booking process. You’ll meet directly with Xanet to explore what’s possible and see if there’s a fit. Both partners must attend for couples work.
The Intimacy Equation Quiz
We all experience intimacy differently. For some, it’s deep emotional safety. For others, it’s passion, play, or spiritual connection.
Your Intimacy Equation is your unique mix of emotion, desire, and energy that makes love feel alive.
This 3-minute quiz will reveal what truly fuels your connection — and what may be blocking it.
Meet Xanet
This work is personal. Because I’ve lived it.
For 26 years, I was in a sexless marriage. From the outside, everything looked fine. But inside, I felt disconnected, unfulfilled, and unsure how to bring up the one thing we didn’t know how to talk about—our intimacy.
It took years of healing, learning, and deep personal transformation to reclaim my body, my voice, and my desire. And now, I guide others on that journey—not from a place of theory, but lived experience.
As a nationally recognized sex and intimacy coach, former lawyer, and best-selling author of Living an Orgasmic Life, I’ve helped hundreds of couples and women create meaningful, lasting change in their relationships and their lives.
This isn’t just my work. It’s my calling.
Are you ready for a deeper connection?
Reclaim intimacy as a path to freedom, connection, and joy.
