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    I'll admit it, there are times when the thought of Valentine's Day brought me angst in the past.  Wondering how my ex-husband might let me down (again), dreading a 'celebration' that I knew would be less than celebratory.  Or, some years, single and feeling sad as I watched others celebrate their relationships, seeming to be happy and in love. Now that I'm older and thankfully wiser, I know...

One big myth about relationships that I'd love to dispel is the notion that it's necessary to feel "chemistry" with someone right away in order to have romantic success. This, frankly, is false. In fact, it might actually be not just wrong, but the exact opposite of what we should be looking for! Why? Because often what we call "chemistry" is a triggering of some attachment pattern developed in our...

Dear Xanet, My husband and I have been married for almost two decades, and I feel so emotionally disconnected from him.  We're wonderful co-parents, and we always work well together.  But over the years, our romantic relationship has faded.  I'm realizing how poorly we communicate with each other.  And our sex life is nonexistent.   While it's not all his fault, my husband just won't stop working long enough for...

This time of year, everyone makes their New Year's resolutions.  Lose weight, get fit, blah blah blah. What about something fun? I saw a meme that inspired me to do this - someone made their resolution to try as many different pasta shapes as possible during the new year! Resolutions don't have to be about self-discipline.  Sure, we can "resolve" to improve perceived flaws, but what about resolving to have...

One of the best ways to preserve intimacy in a long term relationship is to make sure it’s on the calendar. This makes it a priority for both of you and helps you carve out the necessary time to connect. In this video, learn more about why putting an intimacy date on the calendar is important and how to make it sexy and fun.

Breath is the fuel that you need in order to feel more sensation in your body and strengthen your erotic connection with yourself and your partner. Find out why deep breathing during sex will help you feel more aroused and more relaxed, which will greatly enhance your sexual connection and orgasms.

The biggest mistake most couples make is to rush into sex when both partners, particualry a female partner is not ready physically and emotionally. In this video you will learn how slowing down will greatly enhance your erotic connection by creating more tension.