Passion In Paradise
A Valentine's Week Intimacy Retreat
Verdesana by Imiloa, Costa Rica | Feb 9-15, 2026
The Morning Mist Wraps Around the Trees as the Cloud Forest Hums to Life.
You’re tangled up in soft sheets, skin against skin, watching the forest wake through the wide-open windows. A pair of hummingbirds flashes past—as the forest comes alive..
You touch gently. Eyes meet. Breath slows.
There’s no rush here. Just the delicious feeling of being right where you are.
Later, golden light spills over the mountains as you sit across from each other.
The air is warm. The silence feels safe.
You speak your truth. They really hear you.
And in that moment, something deep opens between you.
This is what it feels like to be met—with love, with presence, with desire.
And this… is only the beginning.
Why You're Here
If you’ve been feeling more like roommates than lovers…
If the spark has faded under the weight of stress, caregiving, or years of silence…
If you miss the days when a glance, a touch, or a kiss could light you up from the inside out…
Then it’s time to reclaim what’s been lost—
and awaken what still lives inside you.
Passion in Paradise is more than a romantic getaway.
It’s a sacred space to:
- Heal the emotional distance
- Dissolve shame, guilt, or fear around intimacy
- Remember what it feels like to be fully alive—in your body and in love
- Learn new techniques and tools to deepen connection and create passionate intimacy
Isn't This What You Truly Want?
What if you could truly understand what lights you up in the bedroom, and feel confident asking for it
What if sex felt playful, exciting, and deeply connected again, not just another thing on the list
What if you could want to want sex… not out of obligation, but out of genuine desire
Can you picture a future where being empty nesters doesn’t mean growing apart, but growing into a whole new chapter of fun, freedom, and sensual discovery
What would it feel like to be excited about each other again—not just for one week in paradise, but for the life you’re continuing to build together
What You'll Experience
Over the course of this luxurious, private week together, you’ll reconnect emotionally, physically, and energetically—with yourself and with each other.
No distractions. No pressure. Just time to explore, rediscover, and fall in love again.
You’ll experience:
- Guided communication practices that open your heart and deepen trust
- Somatic tools to help you reconnect with your body—and each other
- Live demos and practices to reawaken desire
- Time for “home play” that brings the spark back into your sex life
- Discovery of your unique sexual styles and how to ask for what you want
- Clarity around mismatched desire—and how to shift the dynamic with ease
- Intimate connection rituals you can bring home and keep alive for years
This isn’t about fixing your relationship.
It’s about creating a whole new way of relating—
One that’s playful, passionate, and built to last.
Welcome to Verdesana by Imiloa
Pura Vida… Life is Good.
Welcome to Verdesana—an intimate cloud-forest sanctuary tucked high in the mountains. Here, time slows. The outside world softens. And your connection finally has room to breathe.
The mist drifts through the trees, wrapping around you like a gentle invitation to drop in, feel more, and be fully present. The air is cool, clean, and tinged with the scent of pine and earth. Birds and distant waterfalls call out across the valley—nature’s own reminder to awaken your senses.
As you walk the winding forest paths hand-in-hand, you’re no longer just a couple—you’re explorers stepping into new territory together.
In the open-air Gathering Space, trees sway gently in the mountain breeze. The cloud forest stretches out before you—lush, alive, and impossibly serene. This is where you’ll stretch, breathe, touch, move… and rediscover each other.
Whether you’re unwinding in the sacred pools or curled up together on a balcony couch overlooking the misty peaks, everything here invites you to come closer.
This is more than a backdrop. It’s a living, breathing container for your transformation. A place where your intimacy softens, deepens, and ignites— in rhythm with the quiet pulse of the mountains.
Let the Magic Begin
Your journey begins with a private luxurious charter bus into the mountains of Costa Rica—easeful, beautiful, and just adventurous enough to remind you: this is not ordinary life.
From the moment you arrive at Verdesana, you’ll feel it— The soft hum of the mountains. The warmth of welcome. The invitation to exhale and begin again.
This is more than a retreat. It’s a portal into what’s possible for your love, your intimacy, your joy.
And yes… it’s also a vacation. We’ve built in spacious time for naps, hikes through many paths, spa indulgence, and spontaneous adventure.
Take your partner’s hand. Let the outside world slip away. The magic is just beginning.
Your Week in Paradise
Day 1 · Arrive & Connect
Welcome to paradise. Settle into your sanctuary, breathe in the mountain air, and let the world fade away. Our first session opens the door to deeper communication and heartfelt connection, building trust and setting the stage for a transformative week ahead.
Day 2 · Touch & Sensuality
Day 2 invites you to explore touch, sensuality, and deeper intimacy. You’ll learn new ways to awaken pleasure, connect creatively, and expand your sexual awareness. The evening culminates in a cacao ceremony—a heart-opening ritual to ignite passion and melt into each other’s presence, ending the day in deep connection and sensual bliss.
Day 3 · The Art of Seduction
Get ready to ignite desire and explore the art of erotic connection. Through conscious touch, breathwork, and playful energy, you’ll learn to seduce with presence and rediscover your partner’s unique rhythm. The day ends by the river with a blue clay ritual—an intimate, sensory experience that deepens pleasure and connection.
Day 4· Rest, Restore, Explore
Enjoy a spacious day to rejuvenate—sink into a spa treatment, spend the day in bed, or simply unwind in the sacred pools. If adventure calls, join the optional excursion to Irazú Volcano. Standing at the edge of the crater, you’ll experience one of Costa Rica’s most extraordinary natural wonders.
Day 5 · Passion & Power
Today you’ll explore the edges of desire—where passion, trust, and play meet. Through guided exercises in dominance, surrender, and light kink, you’ll learn to give and receive pleasure with purpose, deepening connection and igniting raw, magnetic attraction.
Day 6· Desire & Devotion
On this final day, you’ll explore your deepest desires—those longings and fantasies at the heart of your pleasure. Through guided visualization and partner practices, you’ll learn to express them with confidence and connection. The day culminates in a Valentine's Day Ritual that honors your journey and anchors your transformation together.
Day 7 · Farewell & Integration
As your Passion in Paradise retreat comes to a close, enjoy a final breakfast in the rainforest and reflect on the week’s growth. You leave renewed—more connected, confident, and in tune with your partner, carrying tools to deepen intimacy and communication long after the retreat ends.
Your Love Nest in the Cloud Forest
At Verdesana your private sanctuary isn’t just where you sleep — It’s where you slow down, soften, and reconnect.
Each space is tucked into the mountains, surrounded by lush beauty and designed for sensual, secluded intimacy.
Each cabin features:
- Luxurious Queen Size beds with premium linens for deep, restorative sleep
- Spacious ensuite bathrooms with modern comforts and organic amenities
- Private balconies ideal for journaling, meditating, or daydreaming
- Comfortable sitting areas for reading, reflection, or intimate conversation
- Sustainable design using cypress wood harvested from the land itself
- Sweeping views of the mountains, forest, or nearby river
The Spa
Whether you’re melting into a massage or sharing a couples treatment under the trees, the spa invites you to slow down and receive.
Choose from lush body wraps, craniosacral therapy, energy healing, or the simple magic of touch.
Treatments are offered in your room or in Imiloa’s jungle spa—where the sounds of birds and water lull you deeper into pleasure.
Because pleasure is the medicine.
Farm-to-Table Dining
Fall in love—with your food, your partner, and the pleasure of savoring every bite.
At Imiloa, every meal is a five-star, plant-based experience that nourishes your body and delights your senses.
Led by Executive Chef Pedro, organic, locally grown ingredients are transformed into vibrant, indulgent dishes that celebrate flavor and creativity.
But the real magic?
It’s not just what’s on the table—it’s who you share it with.
Meals become moments of connection—laughter, hand-holding, and lingering glances beneath the trees.
This isn’t just eating.
It’s feeding your love.
VIP Pre-Retreat Day in San José
Optional Add-On — $5,000 per couple
Arrive in Costa Rica a day early and begin your retreat experience in a more spacious, grounded, and connected way. During this private VIP day, you’ll meet with Xanet for a 5-hour customized couples coaching intensive designed to clear old patterns, open communication, and set the foundation for a transformational week together.
You’ll also enjoy a relaxing lunch at the resort and time to unwind before heading to Verdesana the next morning with the rest of the group.
This is an intimate, high-touch experience and is only available to one or two couples.
What’s included:
5-hour private coaching intensive with Xanet
Gourmet lunch at the resort
Personalized intentions and practices to carry into the retreat week
Early arrival ease—no rushing, no stress, just connection
This journey is for you if...
You yearn for deeper emotional and physical connection with your partner and want to create more intimacy in your relationship.
You’re ready to explore and expand your sexual options beyond routine sex, and want to reignite the passion and excitement in your intimate life.
You’re afraid of the possibility of becoming just roommates, and are looking to create a dynamic, long-term sexual relationship that will make you yearn for that empty nest.
You’re open-minded and curious, willing to explore the world of sexuality, and embrace new ideas and experiences.
You’re eager to improve your communication and express your desires, and want to learn how to confidently ask for and receive the pleasure you want and deserve.
You’re ready to discover and embrace your authentic sexual selves, and learn how to create a dynamic, fulfilling intimate life with your partner.
You love the idea of combining a luxurious vacation with an intimacy retreat, where you can relax, rejuvenate, and explore your passion and desires in a beautiful tropical paradise.
This journey isn't for you if...
You’ve been in a sexless relationship for more than three years and need a private 1:1 retreat with Xanet to address deep-seated issues
You’re not willing to explore the world of sexuality, and are not open to authentic and vulnerable communication.
You’re not willing to step outside of your comfort zone and challenge your existing beliefs about sex and intimacy
You’re not willing to take a leap of faith and embrace the unknown
You’re completely satisfied with your intimate life and don’t see the need for change or growth.
You have significant sexual trauma that has not been addressed, as this may require specialized care and attention beyond the scope of our retreat.
What’s Included
Included
Bonuses
Not Included
Included
7 days at the magnificent Verdesana Retreat Center in Costa Rica in a luxurious private villa
Six delicious healthy breakfasts
Six scrumptious lunches
Six incredible three course gourmet dinners
Welcome Reception
Private ground transportation to and from the resort
All on-site scheduled group activities
Bonuses
Surprise gifts that will come in handy on your retreat
Pre-retreat call to meet all participants
Private What’s App Group
Instructional Videos on Erotic Massage for Women and Men
Pre-retreat private coaching call with Xanet
On-site 1:1 private coaching session (limited availability with extra fee)
Not Included
Air travel to and from Costa Rica
Trip Insurance
Imiloa is an alcohol free venue so that all participants can remain embodied and present
Wellness Bar serving scrumptious smoothies, elixirs and juices available for purchase
Optional trip to Irazu Volcano
Spa treatments
Tips and Gratuities
Meet Your Hosts
Xanet Pailet
Xanet is a nationally recognized sex and intimacy educator and coach and bestselling author of Living an Orgasmic Life: Heal Yourself and Awaken Your Pleasure. She is a former NYC health care lawyer who lived in a sexless marriage for over two decades. After experiencing her own sexual healing and awakening in 2011, she transitioned her career into a full-time sex and intimacy educator and coach and is now based in Asheville, North Carolina.
Xanet believes that pleasure is our birthright and she is passionate about helping individuals find their way back into their bodies, their desires, and their pleasure. Over the past decade, she has helped rescue hundreds of couples from unsatisfying sex lives and has helped women who are sexually shut down learn how to love themselves, their body, and reclaim their desire.
Xanet is a certified Somatica Sex and Intimacy Coach, Somatic Sexologist, Holistic Pelvic Care Practitioner, Tantra Educator and Somatic Experiencing Trauma practitioner. She has been on the faculty of 1440 Multiversity, Ecstatic Living Institute and the Somatica Institute.
Koren Eloul, MA
Xanet will be joined on this retreat with her esteemed colleague and friend Koren Eloul, MA. Koren is a long-time teacher and group facilitator who brings his warmth, presence and skill as a Somatica trained Sex and Intimacy Coach to help individuals and couples re-discover their capacity for connection and joy.
Having experienced firsthand the challenges of mismatched attachment styles, core desires and connection strategies, Koren went through a period of deep healing and integration. He is passionate about guiding clients on their own healing and empowerment journeys.
Koren pairs his years of training in interpersonal and healing modalities with the genius of the Somatica Method to support his clients in finding lives of greater confidence, pleasure and relationship.
He is a partner, father of two rambunctious children and lives in Merida, Mexico.
Frequently Asked Questions
This retreat takes place at Imiloa Institute’s Verdesana Campus in the cloud forest mountains of Costa Rica, north of San Jose.. It’s a luxurious, secluded sanctuary designed to support deep transformation and connection.
**Important travel note: Our private transportation leaves at 2:00 PM from the San Jose Airport. If you need to arrive early we will provide a list of accommodations prior to the trip. before the retreat begins. We will arrive back at San Jose at approximately 11 AM on the 15th.
This retreat is for committed couples—of all orientations—who want to deepen their emotional, physical, and erotic connection. Whether you’re looking to reignite passion, improve communication, or simply take a beautiful journey together, this retreat is for you.
While all couples have some challenges, we are careful to screen out couples who are in sexless marriages or are having serious relationship issues. Instead, we would encourage you to book a private retreat with Xanet in Asheville, NC where you will receive 1:1 support that will specifically address your relationship issues. It is not uncommon for couples who attend a private retreat and heal their relationship issues to then attend Xanet’s group retreat.
No explicit sexual activity takes place in group settings. However, you will be guided through sensual and erotic exercises designed to awaken desire and deepen intimacy—with ample private time to explore together. Everything is offered with respect, consent, and clear boundaries.
Some optional practices (like the body clay ritual) may involve partial nudity. Participation is always your choice. The environment is held with reverence and safety so that you can honor what feels right for you and your partner.
While all practices are optional and we deeply respect your personal boundaries, we ask that all participants commit to being present for the full retreat experience. This helps maintain the integrity of the container and honors the shared journey we’re creating together. You’re always at choice in how you engage with each exercise—but your presence, energy, and participation in the group rhythm are essential to the collective experience.
Yes. Xanet is a certified trauma practitioner. The entire retreat is designed with safety, choice, and nervous system awareness in mind.
Given the short turn around for this retreat, no cancellations will be permitted. You may, with Xanet’s approval, transfer your registration to another couple.
For this retreat, you are required to purchase Travel Insurance to safeguard all of our interests. For the most protection of your investment, we encourage you to purchase Cancel For Any Reason Trip Insurance. You can use our suggested Travel Guard Insurance online and choose from several policy options. You will also be required to sign a Travel Insurance Form.
February in the cloud forest is warm, partly sunny, and vibrant—a gorgeous time to be in the mountains. Days are in the 70’s with plenty of bright, golden light filtering through the trees. Evenings drop into the 60s, perfect for cozy layers and warm drinks.
Expect some soft mist rolling through the trees, It’s the perfect blend of sunshine and serenity for slowing down, relaxing, and reconnecting.
You’ll receive a full packing list after registration. Think breathable clothing, layers for the cooler mornings and evenings, swimsuits, something sexy or playful, comfy clothes for movement, and anything that helps you feel delicious in your body.
Not at all. Most couples arrive feeling a little nervous. That’s totally normal. The retreat is crafted to help you relax, connect, and open—at your own pace. You’ll be amazed at how quickly you feel at ease and inspired.
We’d love to connect! If you’re curious or unsure, just reach out and we’ll help you decide if this journey is right for you.
What our client's say
This retreat is your chance to reconnect, reignite passion, and rediscover what it means to truly love and be loved—leaving you renewed, reconnected, and inspired to keep the spark alive long after you return home.
Why It Works
There’s no substitute for immersive, focused time away from daily stress. During this week, you’ll not only learn — you’ll live what it feels like to be fully connected.
Transformation happens between the sessions: in the laughter, the quiet moments, the rediscovered touch.
This isn’t just a retreat, it’s a new beginning.
Your Relationship Deserves this Level Of Care and Attention
Join us for Passion in Paradise — a week that will reignite your love and transform your connection.
