Relationship Synchronicity: How to Attune to Your Partner

Having relationship synchronicity with your partner is crucial for a successful couples’ life. It seems pretty obvious but still for many it is really difficult to reach this point.

I like to use the example of two tuning forks: if they are not in the same key (both tuning to #A) then they sound the same and vibrate at the same frequency. But if one is tuned to #A and one to #C, then not only is the sound discordant, but their vibrations are also different.

The same thing happens with relationships. If you are not attuned with your partner, you will not be on the same page or vibration and will feel out of sync.

This means you are not connected and you don’t feel the energy flow easily between each other.

 

Do you feel disconnected from your partner?

 

If you do, you’re not alone.  Many of my clients feel disconnected from their partners at  times.

You may both live in the same place and sleep in the same bed but it feels as if you are miles apart from each other.   

Disconnection can happen for many different reasons.

Spending time apart, spending too much time together, the result of an argument, built up anger and resentments, and the list goes on.

In truth feeling disconnected at times is part of a normal relationship flow.  The key is learning how to get back into connection.

Will  it impact  your sex life

Of course! This is one of the areas that is most affected!

You may live in the same place and even share a bed but if you are out of sync with each other you may not have any kind of physical contact  for  weeks or months.

The communication breakdown creates an environment where you’re not feeling emotionally safe and intimacy is the last thing on your mind.

So sex and intimacy stops, which affects the whole relationship and separates you more and more.

This is sad but it is something that happens and you shouldn’t normalize this thinking “we are old” or “we have been together for a while, the butterflies and the desire are gone now”.

Because if there is love you can ALWAYS get your desire and intimacy back.

 

How can I get in sync with my partner again?

 

First you need to focus on communication. Tell your partner how you are  feeling and open up to this person about how you want the relationship to be.

This may be easier said than done since so many couples are not comfortable having honest and authentic conversations about their feelings. If this is a big struggle, consider working with a couples therapist or coach so you can learn some better communication skills.

Getting back in sync is a unique process for every couple so you can take your time to talk and think about what’s coming up for both of you.

Make a list of activities you can start doing together to feel more connected.. It does not necessarily have to be sexual, you can start with dinners, dates, whatever you consider best to recover that connection.

Then, if you still need help you can work with a sex and intimacy coach, like me. It is always nice to have input and support from someone that makes both of you feel safe.

One thing you need to remember is that disconnection is not anyone’s fault. The first step is to stop blaming your partner or yourself. It is normal, and it often happens over time without us even realizing it.

 

What happens when a couple is in the same vibration?

 

If you are in the same vibration with your partner you will feel energetically and emotionally connected.

This will help make sex flow and the whole experience of intimacy will be your favorite thing, no matter how long you have been together.

As communication gets easier, the discussions and arguments will also be easier and will decrease considerably.

Working to be in the same vibration can take a couple from the edge of separation to a honeymoon stage and this is a wonderful thing to experience.

And by the way, if you are interested in growing and flourishing your relationship during these hard times I have a workshop that is called “Passion in the Pandemic”. The idea is to help you and your partner reconnect and enjoy your time together even more. You can still sign up for some of the modules.

You can see all the details by clicking here: Passion in the Pandemic.