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Costa Rica Feb. 25-March 2, 2027 Retreat
If you’re deeply committed to each other but can feel that connection isn’t as easy or alive as it once was, this week in the Costa Rica jungle is your opportunity to strengthen your foundation, deepen trust, and allow passion to breathe — and reignite.
The jungle doesn’t wake quietly.
Birds call. Insects hum. The air is thick and warm before the sun rises.
You’re lying wrapped in each other’s arms with nowhere to rush. No phones. No schedule. Just space — and the sound of the world coming alive.
Later, you sit across from each other in the open air pavilion. You say something real — something you’ve been holding in. And instead of shutting down or defending…
You feel heard.
You feel understood.
Your body softens.
When safety returns like that, something else begins to stir.
Desire doesn’t need to be forced.
It just needs room to breathe.
And when it can breathe — it reignites.
Whether you’ve been together for years or decades, there comes a moment when you realize:
Love alone isn’t enough.
You want to be intentional about your relationship.
You want intimacy and communication to grow stronger — not just coexist.
You want passion that feels alive, not effortful.
Maybe everything looks good on the outside.
But underneath, you can feel it:
Conversations that don’t quite land.
The same tension resurfacing.
Desire that feels surpressed by stress, resentment, or simply the pace of life.
Nothing is broken.
But something isn’t flowing.
You know your relationship has more depth, more connection, more passion available — if you could just clear what’s in the way.
Passion in Paradise is more than a romantic getaway.
It’s a space to strengthen the emotional foundation of your relationship so trust deepens, communication flows, and passion has room to breathe and reignite.
Imagine feeling completely safe telling your partner what you really want — emotionally and physically — without fear of shutdown or defensiveness.
Wouldn’t it feel amazing if attraction rose naturally again… not because you forced it, but because you actually feel connected?
How incredible would it be if conflict didn’t quietly chip away at your closeness — because you truly knew how to repair it?
Can you imagine touch feeling playful, electric, and deeply intimate — not pressured, not performative, just alive?
Can you envision the possibilities when the foundation of your relationship feels solid… steady… strong enough that passion has room to breathe and re-ignite?
How would it feel to be genuinely excited about each other again — not just for a week in paradise, but for the life you’re building together?
Over the course of this luxurious, private week together, you’ll reconnect emotionally, physically, and energetically — with yourself and with each other.
No distractions. No performance. No pressure to prove anything.
Just time, space, and guidance to strengthen your relationship from the inside out.
Throughout the week, you’ll experience:
This isn’t about fixing something broken.
It’s about strengthening what already exists — so love feels secure, communication feels easy, and your sex life feels vibrant, connected, and fully alive again.
Some of the most powerful moments of the week aren’t conversations.
They’re experiences you feel in your body.
You’ll explore the Four Elements of Touch — a powerful practice that teaches you how to communicate what you truly want and understand how desire builds in your body. It removes guesswork. Dissolves pressure. Rebuilds safety through conscious touch.
You’ll share a guided cacao ceremony that softens defenses and opens the heart… flowing into a slow, sensual massage ritual — skin on skin, breath with breath — where desire builds naturally, without rush or performance.
You’ll take part in our blue clay release ritual, washing away the emotional residue that quietly accumulates over time.
And you’ll spend time at the beach — barefoot, sun-warmed, remembering that your relationship isn’t just something to work on… it’s something to enjoy.
These aren’t exercises.
They’re embodied experiences that deepen trust, strengthen connection, and allow passion to breathe — and reignite.
Welcome to Imiloa—our private retreat center nestled deep in the Costa Rican jungle.
A lush, secluded sanctuary where nature slows you down and intimacy comes alive.
Here, nothing is rushed.
The rainforest wraps around you—warm, alive, and untamed. The air carries the scent of rain and fruit. Howler monkeys call in the distance, a reminder to wake up… and feel more.
As you walk the winding paths hand in hand, the outside world fades. You’re no longer managing life or tending responsibilities—you’re simply here, together.
Our open-air Gathering Space becomes a place of exploration and connection. Surrounded by jungle vines and expansive views, you’ll move, breathe, and engage in partner practices designed to awaken sensation, deepen trust, and invite a new way of seeing each other.
There’s a subtle charge in this space—felt in the quiet, the eye contact, the pauses between touch.
Whether you’re resting together in a hammock or dropping into an intimate practice, everything here gently whispers: come closer.
This isn’t just a retreat setting.
It’s a living container for intimacy—
one that softens, deepens, and reignites connection in rhythm with the jungle itself.
Welcome to Passion in Paradise.
Your journey begins with a private charter flight—effortless, scenic, and intentionally slow.
As you arrive at Imiloa, you’re welcomed with warmth, ease, and a sense of being truly cared for. The rainforest hums softly around you. Breathe it in.
Over the next six days, you’ll settle into a slower rhythm—one that leaves room for deep conversation, playful connection, sensual exploration, and unhurried time together.
With luxurious accommodations, breathtaking views, and the privacy of the jungle, this experience is both a retreat and a vacation. The schedule is intentionally spacious, allowing time to lounge by the saltwater pool, enjoy the spa, or simply disappear together for a while.
This week is yours to savor.
Take your partner’s hand.
Lean into the experience.
The magic is just beginning.
Nestled in a secluded corner of the property, this serene haven invites you to unwind with a healing massage or restorative body treatment, surrounded by the sounds of birdsong and rustling palms.
Whether it’s a solo indulgence or a shared couple’s experience, the spa invites you to slow down and receive.
Choose from lush body wraps, craniosacral therapy, energy healing or the simple magic of touch.
Because pleasure is medicine.
Fall in love—with your food, your partner, and the pleasure of savoring every bite.
At Imiloa, every meal is a five-star, plant-based experience that nourishes your body and delights your senses.
Led by Executive Chef Pedro, organic, locally grown ingredients are transformed into vibrant, indulgent dishes that celebrate flavor and creativity.
But the real magic?
It’s not just what’s on the table—it’s who you share it with.
Meals become moments of connection—laughter, hand-holding, and lingering glances beneath the trees.
This isn’t just eating.
It’s feeding your love.
Welcome to the jungle. Settle into your sanctuary, feel the warmth in the air, and let the outside world fade into the background. Our opening session establishes safety, intention, and emotional connection — creating the steady foundation for everything that follows.
Through guided dialogue and relational practices, you’ll learn powerful tools for repair, communication, and emotional safety. This is where tension softens and trust deepens. The evening closes with a restorative sound healing to help you integrate and unwind.
The morning begins with our transformative blue clay ritual at a gorgeous river — a symbolic and embodied release of what’s been weighing on your connection. In the evening, you’ll explore the Four Elements of Touch, discovering how to communicate desire clearly and rebuild physical intimacy with intention and ease.
This is your most sensual day. You’ll explore arousal, pleasure, and conscious intimacy — discovering how desire builds and how to stay connected as it rises. Through guided experiences and spacious private time, you’ll deepen presence, pacing, and trust. The evening culminates in a heart-opening cacao ceremony followed by a slow, intentional sensual massage ritual — where giving and receiving become intimate acts of connection, and desire is invited to build naturally and without pressure.
The week comes full circle as you design the next chapter of your relationship with clarity and commitment. In the afternoon, we gather at the beach for fun and sun. As the sun sets, we enjoy a closing love ritual — anchoring your growth and celebrating the passion you’ve reignited before one final evening together in paradise.
As your Passion in Paradise retreat comes to a close, enjoy a final breakfast in the jungle and reflect on the week’s growth. You leave renewed—more connected, confident, and in tune with your partner, carrying tools to deepen intimacy and communication long after the retreat ends.
At Imiloa, your private sanctuary isn’t just a place to sleep—it’s an invitation to indulge, to unwind, and to play. Each space is nestled in nature, designed to ignite your senses and wrap you in luxurious intimacy.
Tucked beneath the thick canopy, these cozy hideaways feel like they’ve been carved right out of the earth.
Surrounded by lush foliage and the hypnotic sounds of the rainforest, you’ll wake to the chatter of monkeys and fall asleep to the rhythm of rain on the leaves.
There’s no need for walls when nature is this alive—and this inviting.
For couples who crave something a little more daring, the domes are pure sensual magic. Think glamping gone gorgeously primal.
These seductive geodesic sanctuaries are woven into the hillside, offering privacy, starlit views, and just enough wildness to make your heart race.
With an outdoor rain shower and a front-row seat to the jungle, your senses will awaken in ways you forgot were possible.
For couples who desire privacy, elevation, and uninterrupted Pacific views.
Perched high above the jungle canopy, the Sky Forest Ocean Suite offers an extraordinary blend of intimacy and expansiveness. Floor-to-ceiling glass doors frame sweeping ocean vistas, bathing the space in golden morning light and fiery sunset hues.
Step onto your private terrace and sink into your own full-sized pool overlooking the treetops and sea — a luxurious sanctuary for sun-drenched afternoons, playful connection, and moonlit swims under the stars. Inside, natural textures and a plush king bed invite slow mornings and unhurried intimacy.
An elevated retreat in the clouds — refined and designed for deepening connection.
Nestled in the lush hillside, the Bali Suites are hand-carved wooden homes from Bali, offering a serene blend of rustic charm and modern comfort, with sweeping views of the Pacific Ocean.
Inside, you’ll find:
❀ A king-sized bed with luxurious linens for deep, dreamy sleep
❀ Spacious en suite bathrooms with Balinese-style stonework and rainfall showers
❀ A private balcony where you can greet the sunrise or gaze at the stars
These suites are ideal for couples who crave quiet elegance, nature’s embrace, and a sacred space to rest, reflect, and reconnect with themselves.
For the couples who crave soulful luxury and artisan beauty.
Elegant and spacious, the Bali Homes blend temple-inspired design with the raw beauty of the jungle. Carved wood doors, open-air bathrooms, and expansive decks invite slow mornings, deep rest, and intimate connection.
Sip coffee as mist drifts through the trees, or soak together under the open sky after a day of emotional and sensual exploration. These homes offer a serene, sensual sanctuary—designed to support both relaxation and transformation.
Nestled in a secluded corner of the property, this serene haven invites you to unwind with a healing massage or restorative body treatment, surrounded by the sounds of birdsong and rustling palms.
Whether it’s a solo indulgence or a shared couple’s experience, the spa is a perfect complement to your journey of connection and renewal.
Optional Add-On — $5,000 per couple
Arrive in Costa Rica a day early and begin your retreat experience in a more spacious, grounded, and connected way. During this private VIP day, you’ll meet with Xanet for a 5-hour customized couples coaching intensive designed to clear old patterns, open communication, and set the foundation for a transformational week together.
You’ll also enjoy a relaxing lunch at the resort and time to unwind before heading to Verdesana the next morning with the rest of the group.
This is an intimate, high-touch experience and is only available to one or two couples.
What’s included:
5-hour private coaching intensive with Xanet
Gourmet lunch at the resort
Personalized intentions and practices to carry into the retreat week
Early arrival ease—no rushing, no stress, just connection
You crave deeper emotional and physical connection — and refuse to let intimacy drift into autopilot.
You want passion that evolves with you, not routine sex that quietly flattens over time.
You’re committed to your relationship and ready to strengthen it from the inside out.
You’re open, curious, and willing to explore new ways of relating — both in conversation and in the bedroom.
You want to communicate your desires clearly and confidently — and feel fully met in return.
You believe a luxurious getaway can be more than a vacation… it can be a turning point.
You’re seeking highly individualized, intensive support that would be better served in a private one-on-one retreat setting with Xanet.
You’re unwilling to engage in honest, vulnerable communication with your partner.
You are currently navigating significant unresolved sexual trauma that would benefit from dedicated one-on-one clinical support.
You’re not open to exploring new perspectives around intimacy, communication, and desire.
You feel completely satisfied in your relationship and aren’t seeking growth or expansion.
Private charter plane from San Jose Airport to and from Imiloa Retreat Center
6 days at the magnificent Imiloa Retreat Center in Costa Rica in a luxurious private villa
Five delicious healthy breakfasts
Five scrumptious lunches
Five incredible three course gourmet dinners
Welcome Reception
Private ground transportation to and from the resort
All scheduled off-site group activities
Surprise gifts that will come in handy on your retreat
Pre-retreat call to meet all participants
Private What’s App Group
On-site 1:1 private coaching session (limited availability with extra fee)
Air travel to and from Costa Rica
Trip Insurance
Imiloa is an alcohol free venue so that all participants can remain embodied and present
Wellness Bar serving scrumptious smoothies, elixirs and juices available for purchase
Spa treatments
Tips and Gratuities
Xanet is a nationally recognized sex and intimacy educator and coach and bestselling author of Living an Orgasmic Life: Heal Yourself and Awaken Your Pleasure. She is a former NYC health care lawyer who lived in a sexless marriage for over two decades. After experiencing her own sexual healing and awakening in 2011, she transitioned her career into a full-time sex and intimacy educator and coach and is now based in Asheville, North Carolina.
Xanet believes that pleasure is our birthright and she is passionate about helping individuals find their way back into their bodies, their desires, and their pleasure. Over the past decade, she has helped rescue hundreds of couples from unsatisfying sex lives and has helped women who are sexually shut down learn how to love themselves, their body, and reclaim their desire.
Xanet is a certified Somatica Sex and Intimacy Coach, Somatic Sexologist, Holistic Pelvic Care Practitioner, Tantra Educator and Somatic Experiencing Trauma practitioner. She has been on the faculty of 1440 Multiversity, Ecstatic Living Institute and the Somatica Institute.
Xanet will be joined on this retreat with her esteemed colleague and friend Koren Eloul, MA. Koren is a long-time teacher and group facilitator who brings his warmth, presence and skill as a Somatica trained Sex and Intimacy Coach to help individuals and couples re-discover their capacity for connection and joy.
Having experienced firsthand the challenges of mismatched attachment styles, core desires and connection strategies, Koren went through a period of deep healing and integration. He is passionate about guiding clients on their own healing and empowerment journeys.
Koren pairs his years of training in interpersonal and healing modalities with the genius of the Somatica Method to support his clients in finding lives of greater confidence, pleasure and relationship.
He is a partner, father of two rambunctious children and lives in Merida, Mexico.
This retreat takes place at Imiloa’s Main Campus in Dominical, on the Pacific Coast. It’s a luxurious, secluded jungle sanctuary designed to support deep transformation and connection.
**Important travel note: Our private transportation leaves at 8:45 AM from the San Jose Airport. We will provide a list of accommodations for the night of Feb 24th, prior to the trip. We will arrive back at San Jose at approximately 11 AM on the 15th. We highly recommend that you do not make return reservations prior to 1:00 PM.
This retreat is for committed couples—of all orientations—who want to deepen their emotional, physical, and erotic connection. Whether you’re looking to reignite passion, improve communication, or simply take a beautiful journey together, this retreat is for you.
While all couples have some challenges, we are careful to screen out couples who are having very serious relationship issues. Instead, we would encourage you to book a private retreat with Xanet in Asheville, NC where you will receive 1:1 support that will specifically address your relationship issues. It is not uncommon for couples who attend a private retreat and heal their relationship issues to then attend Xanet’s group retreat.
No explicit sexual activity takes place in group settings. However, you will be guided through sensual and erotic exercises designed to awaken desire and deepen intimacy—with ample private time to explore together. Everything is offered with respect, consent, and clear boundaries.
Some optional practices (like the body clay ritual) may involve partial nudity. Participation is always your choice. The environment is held with reverence and safety so that you can honor what feels right for you and your partner.
While all practices are optional and we deeply respect your personal boundaries, we ask that all participants commit to being present for the full retreat experience. This helps maintain the integrity of the container and honors the shared journey we’re creating together. You’re always at choice in how you engage with each exercise—but your presence, energy, and participation in the group rhythm are essential to the collective experience.
Yes. Xanet is a certified trauma practitioner. The entire retreat is designed with safety, choice, and nervous system awareness in mind.
Any cancellation will result in the loss of the non-refundable $1000 deposit. A cancellation between February 15 and August 30, 2026 will result in a loss of 50% of the trip price. Any cancellation made after September 1, 2026 will result in a total loss of the trip price.
For this retreat, you are required to purchase Travel Insurance to safeguard all of our interests. For the most protection of your investment, we encourage you to purchase Cancel For Any Reason Trip Insurance. You can use our suggested Travel Guard Insurance online and choose from several policy options. You will also be required to sign a Travel Insurance Form.
February in Dominical is peak season in Costa Rica. Expect daytime temperatures between 75-85 degrees with high humidity, plenty of sun, and truly magnificent days and nights.
You’ll receive a full packing list after registration. Think breathable summer clothing, swimsuits, something sexy or playful, comfy clothes for movement, and anything that helps you feel delicious in your body.
Not at all. Most couples arrive feeling a little nervous. That’s totally normal. The retreat is crafted to help you relax, connect, and open—at your own pace. You’ll be amazed at how quickly you feel at ease and inspired.
We’d love to connect! If you’re curious or unsure, just reach out and we’ll help you decide if this journey is right for you.
This retreat is your chance to reconnect, reignite passion, and rediscover what it means to truly love and be loved—leaving you renewed, reconnected, and inspired to keep the spark alive long after you return home.
There’s no substitute for immersive, focused time away from daily stress. During this week, you’ll not only learn — you’ll live what it feels like to be fully connected.
Transformation happens between the sessions: in the laughter, the quiet moments, the rediscovered touch.
This isn’t just a retreat, it’s a new beginning.
Join us for Passion in Paradise — a week that will reignite your love and transform your connection.
